Chapter 06-Sharing the Time between two wives or more)

1090. 'A'ishah narrated, 'Allah's Messenger used to divide the nights between his wives equally, and would say, "0 Allah! This is my division in what I can control (i.e. the time). So, do not blame me in what You have control over but I don't (i.e. love and feelings)." Related by the four Imams. Ibn Hibban and Al-Hakim graded it as Sahih but at-Tirmidhi said that it is most probably Hadlth Mursal.






1091. Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, "Whoever has two wives and inclines to one of them, will come on the Day of Judgment with one of his sides paralyzed." Related by Ahmad and the four Imams with a sound chain of narrators.





1092. Anas narrated, "It is part of the Sunnah of the Prophet that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron, then he should stay with the virgin for seven days; and if someone marries a matron, then he should stay with her for three days, and then he starts to take turns between them (equally).' Agreed upon and the wording is from Al-Bukhari





1093. Umm Salamah narrated, 'When the Messenger of Allah married her, he stayed with her for three nights and then said, "You will get all your rights fully with me. If you wish I shall spend seven nights with you, but if I spend seven nights with you, I have to spend the same time with all the other wives (i.e. anyone he marries who is a matron, he will spend seven nights with her. But the rule that was set by the Prophet
is that the virgin is entitled to seven nights and the matron to three)." Related by Muslim.





1094. 'A'ishah narrated that Saudah the wife of Allah's Messenger gave up her turn to 'A'ishah So the Prophet used to stay with 'Aishah on her night, and the night that was originally given to Saudah.' Agreed upon.





1095. Urwah narrated that Aishah "My sister's son, the Messenger of Allah would not give preference to one of his wives over the others as to the division of the nights he spends (with each of us) and he was just. It was very rare that a day would pass without him visiting each one of us. He would come close to each one he is visiting (cuddling or kissing) but would not have intercourse with her, until he is in the house of the wife whose turn is that night, then he would spend the night there.' Related by Ahmad and Abu Dawud and the wording is his. Al-Hakim
graded it as Sahih.






1096. Muslim transmitted on the authority of Aishah that she said, 'When The Messenger of Allah prayed Asr he would visit all of his wives, coming close to each of them but ...(as the hadith above).'





1097. 'A'ishah narrated, 'During the fatal illness of the Messenger of Allah he used to ask his wives, "Where shall I stay tomorrow? (meaning with which wife) He meant to ask about 'A'ishah's turn. His wives therefore permitted him to go where he wished, so he stayed in A'ishah's house (until he died there).'Agreed upon.





1098. 'A'ishah )narrated, 'When the Messenger of Allah intended to go on a journey, he would draw lots. The one whose lot came out, would go with him on the journey.' Agreed upon.






1099. 'Abdullah bin Zamah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, "None of you should ever beat his wife as he would whip his slave.....(317) Related by Al-Bukhari.

317. The rest of the Hadith says, "and then has sexual intercourse with her at the end of the day." (such behavior contradicts human nature, as this is an intimate relationship that requires love and affection between the spouses.)