: The Shaikh began a list of good manners with truthfulness, a characteristic that Allah ordered us apply:
O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in the words and deeds)
(Surah At-Taubah 9: 119)
The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: Indeed, truthfulness guides to righteousness; indeed, righteousness guides to Paradise. And a man continues to tell the truth until He is written with Allah as a truthful one.
(Recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
Truth is serenity while lying is uncertainty.
(Recorded by At-Tirmidhi).
Truthfulness involves many traits - truthfulness in speech, in promises, in appointments, in buying, and in selling. Let your slogan, my brother, be truthfulness, and in all situations, train yourself to be truthful, for it will serve as a protection. Trustworthiness
In many ways man is entrusted with duties, and Allah Almighty has ordered man to fulfill the most primary of duties - all religious obligations and commandments - after the heavens and the earth declined to bear those duties: Truly We did offer Al-Amanah (the trust) to the heavens and the earth, and the mountains, but they declined to bear it and were afraid of it. But man bore it. Verily, he was unjust (to himself) and ignorant (of its results). (Surah Al-Ahzab 33: 72)
You fulfill your trust by performing deeds as Allah Almighty ordered you to perform them. Then at another level, you have been entrusted with your wife and children; it is your responsibility to give those children a righteous upbringing. You have been entrusted with both a body and senses: therefore you must use them only in the obedience of Allah. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: Gatherings must be with trust, except for three gatherings: a gathering wherein blood is wrongfully spilled, (a gathering wherein) the unlawful occurs with the private parts, (or a gathering wherein) wealth is taken from another without a right to do so.
(Recorded by Abu Dawud.)
At yet another level, there is a trust between husband and wife; the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: From the greatest of trusts (which are broken) with Allah on the Day of Judgement is a man who has intimate relations with his wife and a wife who has intimate relations with her husband, and then he spreads her secrets.
(Recorded by Ahmad)
Finally, one must return those things which were kept with him for safekeeping, or those things which were lent to him, returning them according to the agreement that was made, for Allah Almighty says:
Verily, Allah commands that you should render back the trust to those whom they are due.
(Surah An-Nisa’ 4: 58)
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: Return the trust to the person who entrusted you, and do not deceive the one who has deceived you.
(Recorded by At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud with a Sahih chain.)
We should try to fulfill all trusts that are given to us because, since not doing so is an indication of hypocrisy. When the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) was describing the signs of a hypocrite, he (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
And if he is trusted, he deceives. Chastity:
In one context, the Arabic word for chastity means to protect oneself from sexual wrongdoing, a characteristic that is a must for a Muslim: And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty. (Surah An-Nur 24: 33)
A Muslim protects himself from perpetrating vile and evil deeds, hoping to receive reward from Allah. When the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) was describing the seven categories of people who will be in Allah's Shade, one of the categories he mentioned was: And a man whom a woman possessing both status and beauty invites (to herself), and he says, "Indeed, I fear Allah."
In another context, the Arabic word that generally means chastity takes on the meaning of modesty and self-respect; Allah Almighty says: The one who knows them not, thinks that they are rich because of their modesty. You may know them by their mark, they do not beg of people at all. (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 273)
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: The upper hand is better than the lower one, and begin with those who are under your guardianship (or care). The best charity is to give that which is left after one spends on one's needs (and on one's family's needs); whoever stays away from the unlawful and from asking people, Allah protects him; and whoever seeks independence from people (seeking total dependence on Allah), Allah makes him rich.
(Recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim) Modesty or shyness
: Shyness helps prevent one from perpetrating evil deeds, acting as a barrier between man and sin. Furthermore, it prevents one from being negligent with Allah's rights and the rights of His creatures. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: From what the people know regarding the earliest sayings of the Prophets is, 'If you have no shame, then do as you please."
(Recorded by Al-Bukhari)
Shyness is one of the branches of faith, for the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: Iman consists of more then seventy branches; the best of them is the saying, 'None has the right to be worshipped but Allah.' The lowest one is to remove something harmful from a path, and shyness is one of the branches of faith.
(Recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
To emphasize the importance of shyness, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
Shyness is everything that is good.
(Recorded by Muslim)
And: Indeed Allah is modest and concealed, He loves shyness and loves to cover the faults of His creatures.
(Recorded by Abu Dawud, An-Nasa'i and Ahmad)
The greatest form of shyness is to be shy from Allah Almighty, for the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said: Be shy from Allah with a true shyness; whoever is truly shy from Allah, should be careful regarding his head and what it stores, and regarding his stomach and what it stores; (such a person) should remember death and passing away; whoever desires the Hereafter, leaves the beautiful things of this world. Whoever has done all of that, then he has been shy from Allah with true shyness.
(Recorded by At-Tirmidhi, Ahmad, and Al--Hakim, and it is a Hasan Hadith).Bravery
: Bravery is also one of the noble characteristics of the Muslim. You should know, however, that bravery lies in the heart, while strength lies in the body. The Muslim is one who says the word of truth for Allah, without fearing the blame of anyone. Generosity:
We have in this regard the example of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) about whom Ibn 'Abbas, (Radhi Allahu Anhu) who said, "The Messenger of Allah was the most generous of people." And Allah gave glad tidings to those believers who are generous: Those who spend their wealth (in Allah's cause) by night and day, in secret and in public, they shall have their reward with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 274)
One of the best forms of generosity is that which is shown to one's neighbors and guests, for the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
Whoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day, then let him honor his guest.
When given a choice between spending in the way of Allah and between holding on to our wealth, we should consider this Hadith: O son of Adam, if you give in charity from your excess wealth then that is good for you, and if you keep it, then that is evil for you.
(Recorded by Muslim and At-Tirmidhi)
Whenever one spends for a good cause, Allah rewards him with that which is better than what he spent, for Allah Almighty says: And whatever you spend in good, it is for yourselves, when you spend not except seeking Allah's Face. And whatever you spend in good, it will be repaid to you in full, and you shall not be wronged. (Surah Al-Baqarah 2: 272)
In a Qudsi Hadith, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) related that Allah Almighty said:
Spend, 0 son of Adam, and He (Allah) will spend on you.
(Recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim) Fulfilling one's word or promise:
To fulfill one's word or promise is one of the greatest characteristics of a Muslim; Allah Almighty says:
O you who believe! Fulfill (your) obligations.
(Surah Al-Ma’idah 5: 1)
And fulfill the covenant of Allah when you have made a covenant.
(Surah An-Nahl 16: 91)
To not fulfill one's promises is from the characteristics of the hypocrite; as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) was describing the traits of the hypocrite, he said:
If he promises, he betrays.
When he makes a promise, he breaks it.
Regardless of whether it is in buying, selling, or even in matters related to marriage, one should fulfill not only the agreement in general, but all of the conditions that were stipulated and agreed upon. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
Indeed, the most deserving of conditions are those that make another person's private parts lawful (to you).
He (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) also said,
The Muslims held to the conditions (they agree upon).
So let the Muslim beware of a stem punishment awaiting those who betray their brothers and usurp their rights.To continue Insha Allah